Perspective（3） "There are reasons behind an action, even if it appears
'sudden'"| Do your children behave in unpredictable ways at home or at the daycare
center such as suddenly crying, becoming cranky, becoming upset, or laughing
noisily, or in ways that are difficult to understand, such as seeming unconcerned
even when they hit their head or when their toys are taken by other children? Every action has reasons behind it whether the child themselves is aware or not. Let’s consider this “reason” from the children’s standpoint. Children can’t explain with words, so understanding relies on the adults’ abilities (their experiences and their imagination). For example, even adults like us cry easily or get upset by small things when we are emotionally stretched due to discomfort, anxiety, dissatisfaction or unsolved problems. And, voices and sounds that are usually unnoticed can be perceived as “noisy”. We understand that an adult who suddenly starts to cry has a reason to. So does a child. In fact, in the instance where a child whose sense of reasoning has yet to develop this is even more the case! Therefore, when a child suddenly cries or becomes cranky, we suppose that this child is emotionally stretched. We look over the child’s entire life and confirm the source of their displeasure, anxiety, dissatisfaction, or involuntary feelings. It is necessary to work as a team in order to do this. We sometimes discover the reason for the child’s excessive sense of tolerance or stress when we discuss their condition at home and at our center with the parents. Some examples are: “I can’t say no,” “My pain, anxiety and fear cannot be understood,” “I am challenged above my ability,” and “I can’t share my pleasure and joy.” Their behaviors are sometimes related to the adults’ attitudes, the relationships among the adults and the relationships with their siblings. If we understand the background to their actions, we can find a solution by carefully confirming the child’s intentions, reviewing how the child accepts the adults’ approach, adjusting the relationships which cause the child confusion or conflict, listening to the child more carefully, etc. A child can quickly sense the change in an adult’ attitude. The child will want to try to communicate their intentions and feelings to adults who might understand them, and accordingly, behaviors which are difficult to understand will surely reduce. This is because they no longer need to keep things to themselves. We can confirm all of this through practice. |
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