| Ideas that Confuse Child-raising |
The Fundamental Idea of Child-raising |
| Your child will have trouble in the future, unless you train them to do
things on their own during infancy. |
It’s not true to say that “If your child can’t do X by age X, it will be
too late.” Your child can’t utilize their abilities in life, if they gain
them involuntarily. The one to use these abilities is the child, themselves.
Let’s take time to cultivate their strength of living while caring for
their intentions and feelings.
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| If your child depends on people, they can’t become independent. |
If you ask your child to become independent quickly, they will feel that
they can’t ask for your help and must do it by themselves, and so will
end up becoming wildly independent and have an isolated life. Attachment
and dependence are basic human need. If the child has the experience of
their mother accepting these needs, they can have the emotional support
to develop their independence.
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If you keep responding to your child’s demands, they will become spoilt.
We need to teach discipline and patience to them when they are a child.
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Not only responding to your child’s demands but also the pleasant experience
of being understood will lead to an emotionally connected relationship.
It cultivates not only the ability to assert themselves but also the attitude
of listening to another person, consideration for others, and self-sufficiency
through their intentions being respected and their feelings being accepted
by others.
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Intellectual disabilities cannot be cured. A child with intellectual disabilities
won’t learn by themselves, unless you keep teaching them.
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Intellectual disabilities are not a disease. Trust in people and self-esteem
will be cultivated through communication with empathetic understanding
and by focusing on the mind behind the behaviors, not by trying to correct
their behaviors with respected training. If there are people who understand
the child and an environment in which they can feel comfortable and motivated,
their ability to learn will develop.
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You shouldn’t allow your child to behave in a way that causes others trouble,
such as pushing or biting. If you don’t scold your child, the problem will
escalate and you won’t be able to handle them.
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An eye for an eye formula won’t bring good results. It is important to
build a relationship in which the child is respected and supported when
they are in a difficult situation. There is no child that starts off thinking
of troubling people. When the child can communicate better with others,
they learn this way of expressing themselves and stop their aggressive
behaviors.
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Perspective（40） "To Not Waver. In Your Principles When Child-raising"
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